Our destiny is not written for us,
it is written by us.
We tend to judge others by their behaviour,
and ourselves by our intentions.
'Divorce Magazine' reported on a study conducted by two economics professors of economics at Emory University in Atlanta. According to data gathered from a pool of 3000 subjects,
"….the more a couple spends on the engagement and wedding, the shorter their marriage will be."
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Be careful with your words.
Once they are said, the can only be forgiven, not forgotten.
Raise your words, not your voice.
It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.
Life is 10% what happens to you,
and 90% how you react to it.
Charles R. Swindall
Do not let what you cannot do
interfere with what you can do.
We're three weeks into the new year. Enough time for some us to, perhaps, begin to wonder whether we've bitten off more than we can chew with our good intentions. Often it goes a little something like this:
Going to the gym every day? Every other day is good enough.
Eating more vegetables? They're really expensive this time of year, I'll do that in spring.
Cutting down on caffeine? Just as soon as this stressful project is over at work.
What often defeats us is the sheer scope of our ambition. We set a large goal with a large time frame, and become discouraged by the size of the one relative to the other.
How about trying the other way around? Instead of a large goal (e.g. lose thirty pounds, become entirely vegetarian, cut caffeine intake by three quarters), try forming Microresolutions.
Rather than looking at where you want to be in a year's time, form a modest goal to be accomplished in a week's time.
When that is achieved, and another small step to the first one, or form a different reasonable goal for the following week.
The confidence gained in achieving these small goals quickly will encourage to go on, with continuous small successes building on each other.
All of us have a resolution or two given up on in the past. It can't hurt to try another method to get to the desired end.
"When (people) are more hopeful, they become more interested in creating a better life for themselves and their families."
Insoo Kim Berg, Co-Founder of Solution Focus Brief Therapy model
"There is nothing like experiencing small successes to help a person become more hopeful about themselves and their life."
Insoo Kim Berg
Co-founder of the Solution Focus Brief Therapy model